Learn About Choosing Bride And Groom's Mothers Outfit


Children bring their mothers enormous pride and joy when they are engaged to be married. The planning for the mother of the bride and groom outfits begins once the rush of the wonderful news subsides. Mother of the bride and groom outfits should be comfortable, well fitted and age appropriate, and can be coordinated with the color, theme and style of the wedding party. Mothers matching their dresses has been a pattern for several years. Attending other weddings, reading marriage magazines and visiting bridal attire shops can start the process. Having a thought in mind as to style preference when beginning the search may also be a good idea.

My son recently was asked to attend as best man in the wedding of one of his friends. The mother of the groom was perturbed during most of the planning stages for the wedding day because not all her ideas were put to use. The bride's mother tried to involve the groom's mother in the shopping process for their outfits, however the groom's mother had no interest.. The bride's mother selected her outfit choosing as her mother of the bride outfit an elegant, stylish and flattering gown. She looked wonderful and was a compliment to the entire wedding. The groom's mother chose as her mother of the groom outfit the same dress style as the bridesmaids, but in a slightly different color. Unfortunately, the dress was not age appropriate or flattering to the groom's mother and she spent one of the most beautiful days she would ever have feeling contrite and absurd.

Several thoughts. When looking for a mother of the bride or groom suit, courteously ask the bride if she has any particular style in mind and if you wish, invite her along for fittings and to help pick out what she may want you to wear. She should have input if she and you want it, but do not hesitate to speak up if the gown she prefers is unflattering or cost is an issue.

Department stores have special mother of the bride and groom outfits. Remember that you don't have to purchase your gown from a specialty dress shop. Department stores sell formal wear for specific times of the year and specific occasions. Guaranteed, those outfits will be lower priced than a gown in a specialty shop.

If, however, the bride has chosen something unique in a particular store, you may want to seriously consider her choice. If expense is an issue, remind her of that fact and see if you can find something acceptable. If she is still adamant, then compromise becomes the order of the day. This is the bride and groom's special occasion and it involves cooperation and support from the mother of the bride and groom. Once you experience the joy and laughter on your child's wedding day, every annoyance will be forgotten and you'll be the happiest mothers of the bride and groom ever.

The wedding my son was in made me realize that the day belongs to the bride and groom, not me. I will support them. I will offer assistance if asked, hold my tongue if it's not. I will even allow them input on the mother of the bride and groom outfits so as to not mortify them as their friend was disconcerted. Realizing that this is the bride and groom's day and not mine may be the most valuable lesson to come out of my children wedding day.